Reclaiming Joy: Live Authentically by Your Values and open up the world again

In today’s fast-paced world, it’s easy to get caught up, in what others expect from us, in what we have been told is important, in trying to have it all. In the midst of all this we can forget our true selves, instead striving for things that don't actually bring us joy or meaning. Living authentically by our own personal values is crucial for rediscovering joy and purpose in our lives. It is no wonder that time and time again it has been proven that individuals who align their actions with their core values report higher levels of happiness and life satisfaction.

What are values?

Values are the principles that guide our lives. They shape our choices and reflect what we hold dear, such as family, health, creativity, connection or community. Just as our personalities are different so too are our personal values. There are no 'right' or 'wrong' values, just ones that are either important to us or not. Values are personal and they can change too - things that we valued when we are 13 years old aren't necessary the same things that are important at 33. In the same way, some people values change after experiences, such as becoming a parent or living in another country for a while.

The Importance of Living by Your Values

Straying too far from our core values can lead to feelings of disconnection and dissatisfaction in life, and even increased stress and anxiety. Whilst living according to our personal values fosters resilience and boosts overall wellbeing and contentment. When we prioritise our values, we can make decisions that resonate with our true selves. This not only brings joy but also equips us with the strength and clarity to navigate life’s ups and downs.

What are my values?

The first step toward living authentically is identifying your core values. Reflect on what truly matters to you. Ask yourself these questions:

• What activities/experiences/situations/people bring you genuine joy in life?

• What do you aspire to stand for in your life?

• What qualities do you admire in others, and why?

• What would you like people to say about you on your 90th birthday - how would you like to be described by others?

  
  

When you clearly recognise your core values, write them down. For instance, if "kindness" is a core value, remind yourself daily of how you can embody this in your interactions. Keeping these values visible can reinforce your commitment to them. Bear in mind that you can not ever 'complete' a value, that it to say you can never say you have finished 'kindness' and can tick it off the list. You can complete an action or goal however that aligns with your value, such as making a concerted effort to speak to colleagues in work you don't normally chat to which may align with a value of friendliness.

Now that you have identified your core values, assess your current situation. Evaluate how well your daily actions align with those values. Consider the following questions:

• Are there areas in your life where you feel disconnected from your values?

• Where today did I live out my value of X?

• How could I have spent my time today that would have been more meaningful?

  
  

Make the changes

Start small by incorporating minor changes into your daily routine. For example, if health is a core value, you may find that you're not dedicating enough time to exercise or cook nutritious meals. Make a plan to incorporate regular physical activity into your week, even if that means just a light walk for 30 minutes a few times a week.

• Set Boundaries: If family is important to you, prioritise quality time with loved ones by setting boundaries with work or social commitments. For instance, consider designating one evening a week for a family game night or putting phone/laptops in another room when spending time with a partner.

  
  

• Pursue Passions: If creativity is a core value, dedicate time each week to engage in creative activities, whether it's painting, writing, or playing music. Even spending just one hour each weekend can reignite your passion and bring much needed joy back into your week.

  
  

Taking action, however small, strengthens your commitment to live by your values. Over time, these changes will lead to a more authentic and joyful life.

Embracing your values not only improves your well-being but also empowers you to face life's challenges with purpose and clarity. Remember, it is never too late to start living authentically, and the changes don't need to be huge and time consuming. Take your first step today, start being honest about what is really important to you and let the joy back into your life.